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Introduction: [00:00:00] Welcome to the #PirateBroadcast™, where we interview #interestingpeople doing #interestingthings. Where you can expand your connections, your community, #kindnessiscool and #smilesarefree. Let’s get this party started.

Russ Johns: [00:00:10] We're here with an awesome individual that I met through WinJect Studios in the community and I thought it was fascinating that you talk about all kinds of different subjects and we're going to get into a few today, but for those that don't know, you give us a little snapshot of who Orest is.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:00:30] About 33 years. I used to be a periodontal regenerative surgeon and that came to an end in in June of 2018. And I've always had this thing about, I want to be, I like to talk, I'm an attention whore. There's no doubt about it. Oh yeah. I do. I love it. I just want you to, okay, here, look at me here I am. And I decided I should try to do some things and one of them things is I have a blog called Old Guy Talks and podcast. The Old Guy Talks to me and in that podcast is that's really where I really get a lot of juice going.  I talked to experts about various things and most of the time you'll find out that I have very few filters. When I talk to people and you can just look at the some of the topics. I had gynecologist and we talked about the vaginal deterioration and vaginal rejuvenation. We talk about the sexless marriage. Anti-aging medicine. Suicide and the life conversations porn addiction. There's a whole bunch of things. And I spend a lot of time talking about cigars, scotch and other fun things. And yes, we do talk about sex too. So that's kinda my gig. That's what I'm doing these days. And also put together a a program that will help men get recalibrated, reorganized. One by figuring out what they want, because most people ask them, what do you want? All of them all of a sudden you got that deer in the headlights look and to help them create an actual plan to get what they want. Because a lot of times men get the kid's, life, whatever gets you off the track of what you want to do, who you want to be in the world. And also a lot of times I think sometimes people give up, that's the worst thing. I hate it when people give up on life.

Russ Johns: [00:02:14] And I don't know that everybody understands or appreciates what it takes to really live. A lot of people think that, okay, I got to fit in this box and then I got to fit in this box and then I got to fit in this box. And if I fit in these boxes and follow the rules, everything's going to be okay. That's not always the case. You had a path, you had a mission and I don't know what prompted you to be in the business. You were in the profession. The medical field is you wake up one day and say, I think I was going to be a periodontal surgeon.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:02:51] No, actually it came about, because I was bartending.

Russ Johns: [00:02:55] I went from a bartender to a surgeon,

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:02:59] To a surgeon. Yeah. There was a few years in between there and lots of school. But I looked around and I was in my mid twenties and I looked around and I saw people in their mid thirties and forties and I said,  I did not want to be doing this when I was that age and I love bartending. Oh my God. It was some of the best times the best parties, it was a great time, but it wasn't a particularly good time in terms of growing as a human being. It was a great part time but there's not a lot of self development that went on during those years.

Russ Johns: [00:03:31] Yeah. Yeah. And maybe like yourself, I was a musician, so I was on the other side of the bar and bar life and restaurant life and, fast food or whatever it happens to be is it's the same day over and over. It's like Groundhog day and some parts are fun and I had a great time and being a musician was the only thing that I wanted to be. However, after, years and years in a bar and not graduating, I actually fell and it disrupted that cycle. However, not everybody sits back like that and reflects on what they want to do or who they want to be in the future. You made that decision and you decided that was the choice you were going to make and you spent 33 years in that profession and you decided that now you're going to do something else, right?

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:04:24] Yeah. And Russ, that's the operative word? Decide. So many times, men and women, call me a misogynist I don't give a fuck. But so many times men don't decide. They just kinda let the events take them. And a certain amount of, yeah, you got things show up opportunities, whatever, you gotta be fluid, but at the end of the day, you need to make a decision about what you want and then go after it.  And that gives you purpose every day.  In the mornings I just got finished. I have a routine I go through involves  meditation, journaling, writing some notes to those that I love. And part of it is also is answering a question for myself is what can I do today to be a better version of myself than I was yesterday. You know it's a question I asked myself and then  there's another question, something I'll ask myself is what is the most important thing that I have to accomplish today?  And you can do that one thing every day. I get a lot done. I get locked up.

Russ Johns: [00:05:32] And it's very focused and you decide that this is how I'm going to spend my time. This is what brings me joy today. And I have to really purposeful and  meaningful intent, to put energy into that area. Otherwise your day gets filled with other things that don't really matter.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:05:53] Yeah. And that I'm not gonna tell you like, oh, I'm this guy that gets it done every day. I don't. Stuff happens. But most of the time I do. And you talked about important stuff. Like I always, Steve Covina, Steve Koby, he's got the other thing in four quadrants and one access is important and not important. And the other access is urgent and not urgent. Yeah. And a lot of times we're spending our time, especially with social media and we have, you and I haven't, excuse me, we're in social media because that's our job. But, we spend so much time on that and you'll spend time on the important stuff. And the place that we really don't spend time on is the important and not urgent, which is setting things up for the future maybe a few months or into the future. And I always look at that, moving things around in terms of what occupies your day into those important categories, what are they're important and maybe moving the ones that are not urgent more into an urgent, or at least take some action on those.

Russ Johns: [00:06:57] Yeah, I think it's important also, to have a plan and you probably had this experiences as well. And I find a lot of people are lost. They're just bumping along, like pinball, they're just bouncing off things and they go where the wind will take them without any purpose or plan. And it's a catch 22 in some respects because I had this conversation with my son a lot is you have to have enough experience. No you don't want to be there just like your bar experience. You could look back on the bar and say, I love what I'm doing right now. However, I could see myself in 10 years being in the exact same place I am. And that's not the decision I want to make. We have life experiences and then we have choices and then we have to decide which ones we're going to choose because we only have so much energy. And I think the bigger question right now, or this is what does it mean to actually be a man in this day and age? There's so many conflicting pushing agendas out there that it's really difficult to know what people are supposed to do right now. And I think that you really have to be able to stand up and speak out and know what your rights are, know what your direction is and know what you're going to be doing. And so how do people go through that process based on your expense?

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:08:22] I think a lot of it has to do with knowing who you are and being confident, being comfortable in your own skin. I am absolutely a hundred percent positive that there are people that when they look at what I put out there and things like that will call me all sorts of names, misogynist and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I know that I'm not that. And when people say this, yeah. I don't like to hear that but sometimes I just laugh at it. I just laugh at it. And I think a lot of it has to do with being comfortable in your own skin in terms of who you are and knowing, having a sense of who you are. And also the fact is we are not perfect, your mother may have told you that when you were six, mine did. Then she obviously took it back many years, several years later, but we're not perfect. And people  focus on your imperfections and it's really about being comfortable in your own skin. And I think, yeah, there's lots of mixed messages.  I did a thing on clubhouse on the masculine toxicity. Is it real? I think it's a woke construct, that is not based in reality.  It's not a thing about madness or masculinity. There are men that are toxic. Guess what? There are women that  are toxic.

Russ Johns: [00:09:38] Absolutely.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:09:39] And so it's not it's not...

Russ Johns: [00:09:41] It's not a gender specific role.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:09:43] Exactly. And not only that but people base this on stereotypes that they have in their head and when you ask them for an example, they come back with an example of a stereotype and I've had this conversation cause we had someone who was a on this particular clubhouse session.  We had someone who was in the anthropology women's studies thing and I was trying to break it down and she said oh he didn't like me. Does he like anyone? And she goes no, he's rough with everyone too. So it's not a gender thing. You take it because that's your frame. That's how you perceive every offense is based as maybe gender oriented. And that's not to say it doesn't occur. I'm not going to, I'm not going to pretend this is nothing's a hundred percent and it does happen. It does happen. But a lot of times, people that are toxic irrespective of their gender.   I didn't get married till I was 40. So I was  like an over cooked meal, ready to be served but I dated some toxic women. Even a woman that was like, she was like out of Fatal Attraction. At the end when we broke up, she'd come over to my apartment afterwards, claiming to have my baby, all this stuff, all not true.

Russ Johns: [00:10:50] Man. Yeah. It's interesting to me that so many times perception is reality for the individual. And I just think right now at this point in time, with the pandemic and everything going on in the world, and a lot of people stressing out and changes are taking place,  I would think empathy and kindness would be more prevalent and it just seems like it gets more challenging and controversial. And I think it's only because of the media and the news and people that are pumping out, the bad news comes first. You can't turn your face. You can't turn away from looking at the train wreck. And I don't know what the psychology behind that is. However, I just know that it seems that's what comes to the top. And ultimately when you look at people and you look at what's going on around the world, there's a lot of kind people, there's a lot of amazing individuals out there doing some great work. And I just want to remind people about that and so I know that you're doing some great work as well. You're a stewin and brewin on a a webinar that's going to be coming up. So you want to talk about a little bit about what that's going to include.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:11:57] It's called the standard.academy. Don't bother Googling that right now cause it's not there yet. We were just in the midst of putting it together. One of the things, it's helping men recalibrate their life and reorient where they are because you get into life and things just go haywire. Kids show up, you get married, you get job, lose job. You get a recession. I've been through three recessions and one .com crash. So I'm very familiar in business. When I was in practice, I knew because we were periodontics is, would you call it discretionary care. There's no insurance. I knew when the recession started before I needed to hear it on the news, because it showed up in, in my practice very fast. But I got off the off topic here. So life gets in the way and you lose track of what you want. And in some ways you've given up on what you want, because you don't see it as a possibility in your life. Now, if you come up with some sort of answer, oh, I want to be a billionaire that didn't happen. Okay.  And I can hit golf balls, which I don't like to do. I'm not a golfer, but I can hit golf balls for 10 hours a day. I will never be on the tour. Okay. Anybody that tells you, you can be anything you want, they're lying. They're liars. They're liars. No, you cannot be anything you want, but there's lots of good stuff you can be in between. What I call the four standard deviation which is like the .01 of the population or something like that. So finding out what you want is really important and being very clear and that takes some clarity. It takes some time to sit down and think about it. And sitting and thinking is a hard thing to do because what we mostly do is do, so we have action plans, we go do this and we got to do that. We've got lists, got checkoff lists, what things do I have to do today? I got that too. I have that. It's important to have, but at some point, and I like to do this once a week. I like to sit down and think, and usually that involves me with a blank piece of paper, nothing in front of it. And I'm usually having a scotch or a Gibson and a cigar.   I try not to do it at my house. I have a cigar bar that I go to here in Las Vegas and and I go in there and I know people, I've been going there for several years, but I just tell someone, I'm working today. I'm not being antisocial. I just sit here and people respect that and I sit down and sometimes I have a bunch of stuff on that piece of paper. And sometimes I just have one thing that one thing may be very important in my sitting and thinking. And so sitting and thinking is really important. And then once you get the what... I think Simon Sinek's got it wrong cause he says, start with why. No. Start with what. And then you can go to the why because you want things for the feelings that they give you. You either acquire them. You either experience them. Or you achieve them and you want those things for the feelings they give you. So that's the why. And then you work on the how, and people often get stuck working on that figure, work on the how, but I don't even know what they really want. So that's kinda the formula  that we're working on and that we're developing in the standard.academy.

Russ Johns: [00:15:13] So it's more about the workflow and strategy to decide and really identify with some deep thought, cause it really does take some deep thought to understand, okay, what is it? Cause I think about it the other way. I think about it as, how do I want to spend my time? Because time is the most precious commodity. So if I want to spend my time doing something. Or achieving something or pursuing something. Those actual actions and activities are a little different. And so you have to think about why am I putting energy into this and what is it returning in my life? And, I'm far from perfect because I have a tendency to start working on a project and I get fully immersed in it. And then six months later, I'm going, what the hell am I doing this for?

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:16:02] And sometimes your wants change. And I'm going to tell you, I'll tell you that you're really asking the what question. What you're asking is what do I want to do with my time? And  the how is kind of the action plan, but you're really deciding what you want to do with your time. Where do you want to focus your energy in details?

Russ Johns: [00:16:19] Yeah, and I love that idea and I really appreciate the fact that you're putting this out there because there are so many things that we really don't understand. I want to ask you though, have you had an influence in your life, a mentor?  I'm a fan of Masterminds, of bouncing things off people and mentors are somebody that either their examples or books or people that are here, you mentioned cubby and cynic, and a couple of other people that I know that would probably be available to you, or your thought process that you go into. Who has influenced you in these decisions, in these kind of directions you're taking?

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:16:54] It's a number of people at different times in my life. There was a time that I was very much into Tony Robins. He was a big influence and  my biggest takeaway from Tony is the the power of the question that you ask yourself.  If you ask yourself why am I fat? Your brain will give you answers about why you're fat and it has nothing to do with the solution, if you want a solution.But if  you ask yourself, how do I get myself healthy and skinnier, that's your brain has a whole different set of answers that it gives you. So I think the power of questions was from Tony Robbins. I've had some friends that had some dental mentor, mentors in the dental field. That one in particular, who was like who I was actually his patient when I was a kid. Then I went to dental school.  I was being mentored by him. And then over time we became very good friends. That was a big one. He was a big influence in my life. And then I've had people that have run into at various stages. It's somebody that taught me the real estate game. I didn't really understand. I did not come from a family that talked about money or understood money or how to make money. We were always scrambling and I was always scrambling even as a health care professional. It was just because I did not understand how to manage money and how to hold onto it. And lately I've been working up doing some stuff with a group called Wake Up Warriors, it's run by manage gaming, Garrett J White. And he has a very interesting take in terms of about being very honest with yourself about where you are about being in control of your life. And one of the biggest things  I hate  is the victim mentality. I think that it's so prevalent today that people don't want to take control of their lives and they continually blame outside forces. And I used to be one of those. I used to be one of those ideas, really understanding what that was. I learned a lot about, again when I went back with Tony Robbins, but so many people not taking responsibility and they use words like I can't, they made me. No, most of the time, 99% of the time...

Russ Johns: [00:19:00] Look what happened to me?

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:19:01] Oh, look what happened to me. Yeah. 99.9% of the time, no one has a gun to your head forcing you to do something. And so you make decisions. Now.  Stuff happens. Life is all about challenges and things that happen. But it's how you handle those, and if you take responsibility, that's where you're going to get results. And so many people today are so worried about their feelings. You know what? I worry about feelings maybe about 10% of the time. I worry more about results because if I get results, I'm going to have really good feelings. If I get results, I'm going to have really good feelings and yes, you can buy good feelings. Living in a nice house, driving a nice car, taking nice vacations and being able to give, share things with your family and friends. So yeah, by doing those things, if you have the right attitude about life, yeah, you can buy happiness.

Russ Johns: [00:19:59] They say you can't buy happiness, but it makes you pretty comfortable along the way.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:20:03] I'm not saying you buy happiness, but happiness is also to certain extent I wouldn't be happy. What does that mean? What does that mean? It doesn't mean anything.  I've been listening to, he's obviously controversial, jordan Peterson. I don't know if you've ever listened to him.

Russ Johns: [00:20:17] Yeah.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:20:17] Yeah. So I've just started listening to his 12 rules of life. The man is smart. Oh my God. I've seen him on some interviews on YouTube and boy,  he knows exactly how to talk and how to handle questions. It was just very interesting, he talks about life is all about struggle and getting stronger through struggle and not being the victim. And so I think that's just so important is to get rid of those victim words, victim phrases that take your power away from you.

Russ Johns: [00:20:44] That's I think the bigger point is don't give your power up. Don't give your authority up. Don't give  yourself up.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:20:51] Yeah. Yeah. And people do that. And people who dealt with the words and that it's not that someone takes their power, they actually give it away.  Now in certain courses, situations if you live in certain countries, people take your power away. But for most of us in countries like the United States and Canada,  it's not like that. There's no real big government entity.  My tinfoil hat's small and it's not particularly tight. It's there. But  I have friends, oh my gosh, their stuff I'm going like, are you kidding me? Have you been drinking this morning?  By some standards I might have some people might say I have a tinfoil hat, but it's pretty small, but yeah. It's take control of your life. You'll be a lot happier, stop being a victim.

Russ Johns: [00:21:30] I totally agree with you. Hey, I want to give a shout out to some of the individuals that joined us today. Angie, always a supporter. Love you. Thank you so much for being here. Big hugs to you, Russ. Thank you so much. That means a lot. I know that today is a unique day and Tracie's here. She's the producer of the show.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:21:51] Oh, hi Tracie. Thanks for the emails.

Russ Johns: [00:21:53] Love you, Russ. Thank you so much, Tracie. I really appreciate you. Wow, Wendy is here. You needed young thinking, old guy, no trash talking truth bomb pirate, the pirate universe. Welcome to the ship.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:22:05] Thank you, Wendy.

Russ Johns: [00:22:07] Yeah, she goes on to say, this is such a happy conversation. I'm smiling just watching you share your perspective.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:22:15] Thank you.

Russ Johns: [00:22:15] Very empowering, happy. So I really believe that we all have the opportunity, we all have a gift and we all have something that we can contribute to the world. Taking that authority and that possibility and packaging it up and taking action on it, I think is so important. And it's so fulfilling, too. There's so many things we can do with it. And I know there's so many things I wanted to talk to you about. And so you're going to have to come back to the #PirateBroadcast to continue the conversation.

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:22:44] I'd love to cause I just like to share some of the things I've learned, the mistakes I've made and and those are fun.

Russ Johns: [00:22:52] Yeah, I I know that great conversations lead to thinking different thoughts and imagining different outcomes. And so I encourage always people to look for conversations that challenge your thoughts. To push the boundaries and be open to those conversations. And I think it's really important for in fact, Wendy shared conversation that people from different backgrounds that have different ideas and philosophies can still have a very open and honest conversation and try to understand why they got to the conclusion they arrived at. And I think it's just important for us to share these thoughts and these ideas, so thank you so much for doing what you're doing and talking about all of the different subjects that we haven't yet even tapped into today. So it's okay, what's my expiration date? I don't know, but I'm going to have fun while it lasts, right?

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:23:52] Absolutely.

Russ Johns: [00:23:53] Thank you so much for being here. I really appreciate you and look forward to the next time, the next opportunity, and as always everyone, thank you so much for being here. I really appreciate it. Comment and share. If there's somebody that needs to hear this information, reach out to them, what's the best way to reach out to you, Orest?

Orest Komarnyckyj: [00:24:10] You go to my blog, oldguytalks. com and there's a way to access them. And you can also opt in. So Russ I shared it, so when you opt in, you get  a little email from me about three ways, three ways to get laid more frequently without begging and two of them are free and one costs less than 10 bucks. So  it's pretty simple. But it's something that is really about being a guy and being a guy also means being a gentleman.

Russ Johns: [00:24:46] Yes. Amen. So thank you so much, everyone. Orest, always a pleasure. I look forward to more and because #kindnessiscool and #smilesarefree, go out and #enjoytheday. Take care.

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